came across this post while blog-hopping.

i thought that it is rather meaningful and true at large so i decided to quote the post for many others to sort out their understanding of themselves.



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Love? Does anyone truly understand what love is? Many people, me included, get swept over on the slightest hint of love. We toy with our feelings, tricking ourself into believing that we have finally found the 'one' and then realizing weeks later that he/she's actually the 'one' not meant for you. Trapped in this vicious cycle of searching and breaking-up for love, did we gain experience from it or have we lost ourselves in this mess?

Love, something so simple, can be appallingly complicated.

I believe that we get addicted to romance, and not love. Love is about responsibility; it's about putting 2 people's opinions into perspective; it's about sharing one's joy and sorrow; it's about conquering difficulties, come what may. We often find ourselves in quick relationships because we never really make an effort to make it work. There's a chance of love in front of you and you grab it, not caring about the consequences that might arrive. Isn't that selfish? A relationship is never just about you, it's about 2 people. And when a relationship fails, it's not just about you but about the other party getting hurt as well.

However, don't they say that love is selfish? It is, of course, in a way. But love - true love, isn't.

We hop from one partner to the next, searching for happiness, even as fleeting as it might be. We want our partners to be sweet, be nice, be rich, be cute, be supportive, be everything that you expect them to be. Well, that's not love. That's romance. But after the facade has peeled off, when everything is not as perfect as it is, and two people are still together, then that's the start of love. That's where sacrifices come into play, and a consistent effort to make things work.

Love is never perfect. It's about trying to make things perfect.

But because we are often so deluded into finding the right one, we send out wrong signals to everyone, hoping upon hope that maybe someone would fall in love with you. And we bask in the love that we receive. For the sake of love, we let selfishness and temptations get the better of us. Has love consumed us till such an extent? I hope not.

Don't go looking for love, but rather let love come in. And whenever a relationship fails, have some time to think about what went wrong, before getting together with someone else again. If not, have you truly understood what you want? Would you fall for the same mistake twice?

And definitely, what would the other party feel?

Of course it's a full circle. It always is, always has been. Only when you try to sincerely break away from it, understand what you truly want, then can you set a straight path towards the destiny you desire.

Have you loved before?

Have you truly loved before?

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the majority of the ppl i know falls into the category mentioned above.

characteristic:

1: desperate for love.
see a slightest chance of love, quickly grab on to it without thinking, the next min, the relationship ends... then they start lamenting that they very pitiful, no ppl to love them... haix...

2. mistake romance for love.
they are looking for a romantic partner, not a love partner. they want to do everything romantic with their partners, which is too idealistic for a real love. to love is to live with. human beings do not live in romance. romance is just an occasional bliss we reward to ourselves for standingbying our partners through think and thin, ups and downs. relationships that cannot survive through disputes are based on romance, not love.

3. self-deluded that love has arrived at 1st sight.
they think that love is like air present all over the atmosphere. everytime they meet a new partner, they forcefully convince themselves that love has arrived upon them, which is untrue. they just enjoy the excitement of falling in love and the false hope that someone has come to love them. total self-delusion and self-indulgence. Love is only to arrive after a couple has braved through joy and sorrow together and still stay by each other's sides. but ppl normally thinks that love is like macdonal delivery- arrive at ur doorstep at a call within 10 min. NO!!! love has to be able to withstand the tests of time and difficulties.


4. hunting for love.
they would make as many friends as possible. the reason is very simple. they want to open themselves to as many choices as possible, even during when they are attached. they are preparing themselves for new relationships all the time, be it when they are single or attached. ya ya ya, they claim to be faithful devoted lovers, how true can this lie be? dats why i would never consider anyone high profile. cause i know that they are never truely sincere to be settled with me. they are always looking for better choices. true love will come to you when the time is ripe. those so called "true love" u found are just one of the many sacrifices along your way blindly looking for false love. they wont last.

lesson of the day:
dont be desperate finding love, love will come to you. dont expect relationship to be always romantic, instead, learn to appreciate the bitterness of your rows with your partner, cos setbacks will make a relationship more realistic. dont be too eager to conclude that love is already present between you adn your partner. love is not something that can pop out of nowhere. it takes time and efforts to grow love.


im glad that i have already realised these before i read this post, it only helps me to re-enforce the concept haha...

had gp today.

the papre was rather tough, but i managed to comprehend most of the contents.
the capability to answer the questions is however another thing.

its maths tml. yes, maths, a subject which requires much practice.
lets hug budha's legs at 11th hr.

discover joy from the basic.
life is this simple.

even grocery shopping can be fun.

nothing significant to post....

incongruent values and unparelleled mindsets, we are not moving with the same pace.

how far can we go?

promo exams will start in 2 weeks time.

im under-prepared. im focusing on my Physics, Maths and Econs.
i practically did not study at all during the september holidays, had been outside playing all the time.
its now time to get serious and start intensive mugging.

i have already stopped dota completely until my exams are over.

4th october is my last day of exams.
after that, we still have school, but the jc1 will be preparing for their project work presentations.
i dont have project work, cos i got an A for last year ^^

so i will be quite free after exams, though there is school, but i wont be doing anything in school.
we repeat students who do not have project work only make up a minority group so i do not expect them to arrange special programs for us when the rest are busy with project work.

school is expected to end early then, so my after-school hours?
i want to find a part-time job haha... need to save some money

not forget to mention... 4th jobs are coming soon... expected date is after my promos... just nice for me to play back my priest and advance it to the long awaited supreme BISHOP!!! let the ks begins~~

study

life had been a little different... positively...

ok updated